Are trans dommes unusual?
Further to an old post of mine:
“A(nother) kink road less travelled?”
i recently mentioned on a queer+tgd dating app that i'd had
a conversation with a trans sub who was bemoaning the lack of trans domme porn and trans dommes more generally. Are we really that uncommon? My impression is that i'm unusual for being a trans woman who basically only tops, but to what extent are most trans women predominantly bottoms?
i found the responses interesting:
- A trans masc person, in their early 60s, said that their experience was that the distribution basically reflected the general queer population: switches being the largest group, followed by bottoms slightly more common than tops.
- Another trans masc person, in their mid 20s, said that their experience was that a lot of trans women are expected to top, resulting in them subsequently having an increased desire to bottom.
- A trans femme person, in their late 20s, said that they end up topping as a result of knowing what they're into and having the relevant skills, such that their non-toppy desires can get deprioritised.
- Another trans femme person, in their early 40s, said that every time she's dated a trans woman who said they were a switch, they turned out to be a bottom.
- A third trans femme person, in their early 30s, said that they'd not encountered trans tops in Sydney, and only some in Melbourne.
- A nonbinary person, in their late 20s, said that the trans femme people they know are either switches or service tops.
In one conversation, i wondered if what might be happening - at least in part - is that people are trying to convey that they can't find trans dommes who meet their other requirements. Like, for example, how a cishet woman might bemoan a lack of men: it's not that there aren't available men per se, which there clearly are, it's that there aren't available men who have the desired characteristics.
i'd love to know whether there's any academic research on this topic ....
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